Toot your own horn!

Hey Beautiful! What do you offer to offer? What gift do you have that the world needs?

Time and time again, the ones close to us know what we do and are capable of. But, we are sitting on the sidelines thinking that they will tell the world. Isn’t that what referrals are all about, right?

Well, sometimes yes and sometimes no. Sometimes they do but sometimes they also keep us complacent in staying at the level we are at. Because of our fear, we won’t tell the world what we have to offer. We think that our talent will fall into the right hand and we will get our big break.

Well Beautiful, that may happen but how long are we willing to wait? We can’t pray to God for growth and expansion if we are not willing to also do our part. I’m not saying take control and do it yourself but I’m saying promote what you do. Tell the world what God has gifted within you! Toot your own horn!

How else will we know what you do? Share what you do and you never know who may have been looking for what you can provide. Toot, toot!

Even the strong ones need a friend!

I’m sure you never thought about this but “who encourages the encourager”?  We all have one – you know that friend that is there for you whenever you need them, that friend who will listen, pray and just be there for you no matter what.  Well, can that friend turn to you when they need support?  Or have you ever asked who they turn to?
 
We all have our moments of trials and challenges but at some point or another we all need someone to encourage us or just receive a hug to know that we care and that we are them for them!  You see – even the strong ones, need support!  In actuality, the strong ones probably need it more than anyone because they are always giving of themselves and don’t ask for anything in return because that’s the nature.  It’s their calling to encourage others.  But, they still need support when they are going through!  
 
As an encourager, I know too often what it’s like to be there for others but not really turn to people when I need a hug or an encouraging word.  I don’t know maybe I think that I can figure it out on my own.  Or maybe I just keep to my introverted self.  Who knows but I will tell you that even the strong ones need a friend!
Make an effort today to reach out to your strong friend and just ask them how they are doing.  Don’t let your schedule, duties and tasks stop you from reaching out.  You never know when the encourager needs to be encouraged!

And in this corner…

One of the hardest things about pushing to pursue purpose or a goal is accepting who’s in your corner. We all know who the dream killers in our lives are.  We know that they don’t want to see you win.  And this is what we use to push into greatness as we want to prove them wrong.  However, what do you do when the lack of support comes from family and friends?  Hmm, that’s a hard reality to accept because hey they are family and friends, right?

Think about it, they never support your dreams and aspirations.  They may say that they do but their actions tell a different story.  They won’t clap for you.  They won’t cheer you to the finish line.  Yet, total strangers who you’ve connected with along your journey of purpose will cheer you on louder than them.  You see there is nothing harder than having a vision or purpose and you’re working hard towards it but feel like you’re alone in your journey!  Sometimes having no one can be harder than having a hater in your corner because at least the hater is pushing you to greatness. When you feel alone, you may lose the desire to keep moving forward.  But beautiful, you can’t let the lack of support stop you from family and friends stop you. Don’t think about the person who’s not there supporting you but focus on the person who needs you while you’re fulfilling your purpose.

Here are so reminders to keep in mind when you need to keep going and it feels like there is no support:

  1. My passion is my priority – don’t say what if so and so is not there.  Instead say, I’m following my passion and following my heart.
  2. Life is short – don’t worry about their opinions and expectations but follow your dreams
  3. People may never understand – sometimes people will try and discourage you because they understand “your” vision.  As such, they may offer unsolicited advice.  Just remember that if you are following your dream and passion then they don’t need to understand and it’s not your purpose to get them to understand.
  4. Maybe they are insecure – people may not support you because they are jealous of what you are trying to accomplish.  Because of their insecurity and jealousy, they may not support you.  Just keep going!
  5. There is plenty of possibility – the world is full of possibilities  so do you really want to listen to someone else rather than listening to yourself.  Objections from others is not your truth if you are listening to your heart.
  6. Their support is not needed – it is certainly possible to accomplish your dreams and purpose without their support. Think about what you have accomplished so far and continue taking the road less traveled.  You did it then and you will do it this time too
  7. You can’t please everyone – this is the most important remember one of them all – focus on what you want to do and why you want to do!  As long as you are doing it for you then who cares!

Remember, your life is a testimony for someone else so become your biggest cheerleader! Be the one cheering you to the finish line! Ring your own bell, toot your own horn and scream to the world all the greatness that you have within! Beautiful, you can do it and we (total strangers) are cheering you on and we are in your corner!

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